I can’t believe this is my last blog post about being a gestational carrier. What a journey it has been. I want to start off by thanking all of you for support and prayers.
The last month of the pregnancy was very long! Remington took up every inch of space I had. I went into the hospital about a week and a half before Remington was born with severe contractions. I was at the hospital for about four hours. That day started out normal and then as the day went on the contractions got worse. I called my mom and she went to the hospital with me while Tyson stayed at home with the kids. They hooked me up to the monitors and watched the contractions. I was progressing slowly and then all of a sudden the contractions just stopped. Dan & Keva were waiting on pins and needles curious as to whether they needed to get on the road from Fort Worth. The hospital sent me home since the contractions stopped. The next two weeks I hardly had any contractions at all.
Dan & Keva were very ready to meet their little man. Especially since Dan’s mother was very sick, they wanted him to arrive before she passed away. Unfortunately, Remington had other plans. Dan’ mother passed away the Monday before Remington was born.
That last week was full of prayer, getting everything ready for my kids to spend the weekend with grandparents, packing my bag for the hospital, cleaning my house, and just trying to relax as much as possible.
We had an induction planned for December 21st. Dan & Keva came in that Friday evening with her parents. My family and I went out to eat with Tyson’s family for Tyson’s dad’s birthday. My kids spent the night Friday night with my in-laws because we had to be at the hospital at 6am. I cried when we left them!
We arrived at the hospital at 6am on Saturday morning ready for baby! We got into our room and they started the Pitocin at around 7. When we arrived at the hospital I was at a 3 and 60%. So, after having the Pitocin going for a bit, Dr. C came in and broke my water at 9:20. When he broke my water I was at a 4. I had received my epidural at around 8am, so I was feeling pretty good. We were all hanging out in the room talking and watching tv. I started feeling a lot of pressure and told mom that she really needed to go find the nurse because it was taking everything I had to not push. The nurse came in and said, “Honey, it hasn’t been that long since he broke your water, I really don’t think you are ready, but I’ll check you anyways.” She barely got her hand in there and stood straight up, called the nursing station and said, “We need to get doctor here, this room is ready!” She was shocked that I had progressed from a 4 to a 10 in less than two hours. At this time they start bringing in all the baby equipment and we start getting anxious. Dan didn’t want to be the room when the baby was born just because they had had so many heartbreaks in a delivery room, but they were able to talk him into standing behind the curtain. When it was time to start pushing, Mom and Tyson were on one side of me, and Keva and her mom were on the other. My dad was in the room, Dan was behind the curtain, and I believe Keva’s dad, my brother and his wife were in the hall. I only pushed four times and little man was here! All the heartache, sickness, scares, were melted away in one second. Dan & Keva now had a beautiful, healthy baby boy. Keva cut the cord
I was a little worried about being sad about not taking a baby home with me that I had carried for nine months, but as soon as I looked down and saw him and he didn’t look like my kids I knew I was gonna be ok. Thank God!
They took Remington over to the warmer to start cleaning him up and at that Point Dan came in and just held Keva while they stood there and admired their baby boy.
Meanwhile, Dr. C was sewing up for a LONG time!! Apparently, Remington came out side ways!! Dr. C said he came so fast that he didn’t have time to try and turn him, so I tore really bad. But, it was all worth it looking over at how happy Dan & Keva looked. Keva and I were able to share an amazing moment when she hugged me after the baby was born. I will cherish that forever and I’m grateful Tyson was able to capture it with the camera. Dan also gave me a hug and they both said Thank You over and over again.
After I was all situated and resting, the hospital was able to give Dan & Keva their own room so they could spend time together with their baby.
I was able to leave the next day, but Remington had to stay for a few more days due to me being a carrier of Group B strep. He was healthy, weighing 7lbs 14 oz. He is perfect!
The new family headed back to Fort Worth on Christmas Eve after coming to our house to let the kids meet him. Brayden didn’t care at all, but Blakeleigh was so excited to meet him and take a picture with him. We said our goodbyes and then they were gone. It was a weird feeling seeing Remington leave after him being a part of our lives for the past nine months. I do miss him, but I know that he isn’t mine and that he is where he belongs. I don’t think you can go through what I went through and not miss the baby that you carried and delivered.
I’m so incredibly grateful for this entire experience. The good, the bad, the painful, and the extreme joy. My life is forever changed. This has caused me to love my children more and to be so grateful that even as uncomfortable and painful pregnancy, labor, and recovery is I am blessed to be able to do it and to give this gift to someone else.
This last week since Remington was born has been full of many emotions. I have been in extreme pain from the delivery, an infection in my breasts from letting my milk dry up. I have been sad from missing Remington and his parents. I have been excited knowing that I can go back to giving my all to my kids. I have been overjoyed knowing that Dan & Keva are soaking in every moment with their little miracle. I have felt grateful for all the support and love I have received from family and friends. I am a little sad that is part of the journey is over, but I can’t wait to watch Remington grow up through pictures and occasional visits.
You guys have been a true blessing and I know all of your prayers have helped me through the rough times. You will never know how grateful I am for your prayers, encouraging words, and help. I love you all and thank you for going through this journey with me!!!